How to be happy

It is the tough times when you need a dose of positivity and hope. It is this feeling that makes you wonder is it really ever enough of all the problems and stress u've got. I takes a lot of guts even to admit the fact of being unhappy. I do not want to talk about any facts, but let us be real. Life is too short to feel uncomfortable with the decisions and choices you make everyday. So here is my top 5 ways for being happy:

1. Be rational

The voice of your heart might be very loud sometimes, but eventually if you already know what damage your decision might cause in future your brain will warn you, and believe me, trusting your heart is wonderful, but you should also give a chance to your ratio. Just learn to question everything you hear.

2. Tell the truth

Any lie you set in this world will find it's way back to you. It is just a waste of time. It begins with small lies and they grow so fast you cannot even keep up with them. They trace you and it destroys relationships of any kind. Open communication is the best thing you can learn and aply to any field of your life.

3. Learn to love yourself

Accepting who you are might be one of the biggest struggle you'll face in life. Whenever you don't feel confident about what you see in the mirror, you have to understand that this is the way you are. If you do not like it, change it. There is no bigger enemy of yours than yourself.

4. Forgive

Forgiveness makes life so much better. As simple as that. Try it sometimes.

5. Stay positive

Make a list of favourite moments in your life, smile at strangers, read books and travel. Spend some time with your family or do something different. Explore and see what your possibilities are. Get out of your comfort zone and grow bigger, and better. Understand that everything happens for a reason and that anything can be a lesson learned.

Life can be so much more for you. It is not about how many years youl live, but how you live them. Quality should be important to us. Walk away from anything that makes you sad. If you have problems, fix them. Fight and be a champ. Do not just dream. Wake up and live it up.

Have a nice weekend,

Love, 

Me :)

Vidi sto je slatka

Pijem kafu. Jutarnju.
Jos je rano da bih zapocela konverzaciju s nekim na poslu. Razgledam okolo i  vidim da jos uvijek nisu dosle sve kolege. Nista. Dan zapocinje i bez njih.
Sjela sam za racunar i otvorila dobri stari fejsbuk. Kazem dobri stari ne zato sto je fejsbuk star, nego zato sto je moja raja na tom istom fejsbuku stara koliko i ja.
Pocnem da listam. Kao u vakat, dok su se nekad listale novine, evo i ja, listam ovo cudo. Poneki citat İve Andrica, neka pjesmica, i neke vijesti koje su slucajno zalutale u moj news feed. Cudno, slabo raje na chatu.
I onda ja tako listajuci svoju malu virtualnu mahalu vidim Almu. Joj Alme sto je porasla. Sjecam se dok je beba bila. A vidi sad. Curetak. Mala Alma u nekom kratkom sorcu. Ali to tek primijetih nakon njenog poprsja koje bijase u prvom planu. Ne vidi se puno od lica. Ono sto sam prepoznala su jedino njene usne nekako cudno napucene. Kontam ja mora da je to sad normalno. Vidim sve se djevojcice tako slikaju. Ali, ne slikaju se samo one. Vidi Selme i njenog poprsja. Sjecam se, ona isla u srednju dok sam ja peti osnovne bila.
Mescini ovo portal za skidanje.
Na trenutak sam se zamislila. Ee, pa zar smo na ovo spale? Da se ovako nudimo? Onda opet razmisljam, mora da vrijedi. Mislim, lajk je lajk. Mnogo znaci. Mnogo je bitnije da Edo, Dino, Ado i Mujo vide tvoje fizicke atribute, nego upoznaju onu pravu tebe. A i prava ti je plaho pametna vidim. Mnogo, i previse, razmisljas o posljedicama svojih postupaka. A mozda ti nije ni bitno. Ne znam.
Drage moje Alme i Selme, mnogo je vas u svijetu, mislim se.
Kome prıcam? Ko ce shvatiti sta govorim.. Jos ce reci da sam luda. Da nisam moderna, pobogu. A jadna, tek u dvadesete zakoracila.
Djaba meni sve knjige koje sam procitala, djaba meni svi polozeni ispiti i statovi koje imam. Ne valjam. Ne valjam jer ne znaju koji broj grudnjaka nosim. Ne zna mi ni tetka, ni strina, nı dajdza, ni tamo neki daleki rodjak koji zivi u Kanadi. A steta, imaju me u raji na fejsbuku.
I ne cudi me nista. Sve sto je nekad bilo dobro vise nije. Ideal ljepote je toliko iskrivljen da i ne krivim djevojke sto cine ovakve stvari. Norma je norma. Ona se mora ispuniti. Pa iako su to samo oci praznih umova.
Ma neka, nek' selo zna.
Nek' se zna koja se umije najbolje reklamirati i prodati.
Neka, trebat ce uvijek lajkova.

You think?

Every and each of us should think of his/her life as of a piece of art. Fine art. The way you live your life reflects who you are and what you stand up to. İt is not about what you go through, it is the the lessons you take out of it.
İt is the simplicity that makes your life a work of art. People's faces, significant places, tiny adventures..
I hear people complain of their lives as being empty and nonsense, and it makes me wonder one thing. Why don't you live better than that? Why don't you read more? Why don't you visit more places? Can't you make yourself work harder and better? Wanna become famous? Then make it happen.

You think you deserve more? Go and get it.

Ten years from now I don't know what I am going to be, but for sure I don't want to complain about life. You say: "Life sucks!" Let me correct that. You suck. Bring it to proove me otherwise.

So let me ask you, if your life was a real piece of work, wouldn't you live it up to make it a masterpiece?

Lolita

Eternal flame

April the 6th. Ordinary people. Love. Eternal. Sarajevo.

The message is simple : You will never find a place which will entertain you more, make you laugh, sing and be happy. I am proud. You cannot take away certain things. Our flame is eternal.

I am not a box!

Wow, I haven't written in a long time! I was thinking about changing the style of my writing and talk about stuff that would be usefull to the ones who read it, but then I remembered one thing. I am not here to give you any advice or change the way you are. I am here to share my story.
And if my story is not big enough to have an impact on you while reading my posts I guess no other writing  style in the world could change it. The way you feel like when reading the things I share.
This is me. This is who I am.

So, today I was discussing an amazing thing that happens to all of us, I believe. As you grow up and learn many new things you tend to become more insecure while you are giving answers to particular questions. It might be at school, work, anywhere. Your head is stuffed with many dillemas and you think that there is only one right answer. But let me tell you a secret. As long as you think and have the abillity to connect various topics, criticize, approve or dissapprove of some ideas, share them and communicate to other people you are perfectly okay. There is no single answer to any question. There are only different angles to everything. You have to be creative. Once they asked to Nikola Tesla: "How did you find the way to do it correctly, when you had previously failed a thousand times?" Listen what he answered: " I have not failed a thousand times, I have only found a thousand ways it wouldn't work, and then the right way of doing it!"
This is something everyone should relate to. You never fail and you are never wrong in the process of trying. You are learning. You only fail if you don't give yourself a chance.

Being insecure is normal, but think of answers when talking to children. They have the most amazing ideas. Why? Because they know they do not have any limitations. There is no such thing as being wrong. You can only be too creative. Learn from children!
Think out of the box!

Solitude.

It's never easy to talk about private stuff. But it makes people feel better. So let me start off..

Since I was a child, I had the weird feeling of not knowing who I am. We used to live in Germany and right at the time I was starting my primary school, we had to move to Bosnia. Living in one city for a while and moving to another one was kinda hard. I left my parents house at age of 14 and went to highschool in another city. I've dropped into the university afterwards and changed my friends cycle once again. I was able to meet a lot of people in my life but not very few of them, was I able to bound to.
There has been several reasons for that.

•  Jelaousy

No matter who or how I always managed to have jelaous people around me and be jelaous myself sometimes, not because I fel intimidated by someone, but because I feel a huge essence in loving people as they are, and when they wouldn't love me back, I would feel guilty and jelaous of others having that feeling and it would bother me.

•  Honesty

When I look back I see that honesty is not a characteristics owned by a lot of people. I am not saying that I have been the most honest person at all, but at least I tried to improve and to act responsible toward others pople's feelings.

•  Empathy

Empathy means a lot to me. It is the way we feel for others. Do you know how it is to be bullied because genetics did not asure you artificial beauty and you have to listen to all of those who torture you. Have you ever put yourself in someone else's shoes? I tried, and it scared the shit out of me. It is not easy being someone else, so how could you possibly understand what they are going through.

• Prejudice

It speaks for itself.

•  Expectations

I do not know how many of you have experienced the awful feeling of being guilty for not fulfilling someone's plans they prepared for you, but the constant conduct of behavior they asked you for must have been very stressful for both parties. For you, because you probably did not want to chase their dreams but instead your own, and for them, because they saw with how much difficulty they are trying to persuade you.



I know, a lot of people will say I am crazy for saying such private things and stuff, but it has just one aim.
Prooving that you are not alone. You probably have your own list of things that bother you and you'd like to improve in but the main point is that all people find it very hard to struggle with themselves during different periods of life. If you want have friends, you have to be one, yourself.

During all these changes in life I appretiated  the most people with less obvious jelaousy and prejudice, and  honest people with empathy. You will never meet the perfect person who is truly complete because everyone has their own battles, but you will meet a lot of persons who are still looking for the deep meanings of life, trying to understand how to behave and act. This is mainly the reason you feel confortable with your special friends, it's always because you see a piece of them appealing to your soul and making it easier understand why you love them so much in the ways you do. Some will resemble you, some will be quite the opposite, but you will always seek in them the missing link you need for your own life. This is the reason we are so dependent on socializing and having friends. I am a person with a few friends whom I trust and pay my full attention to. It is not because they are perfect, nor did they choose me because I am, it is because they make me complete as a person, and through them I am able to seek the very best in myself. It is about gratitude and commitment. Once you find these kind of relationships in any phase you are going through in your life, make yourself sure that you will never let these bounds dissapear, because once you have a friendship like this, there is no limits for achieving anything in the world. Just infinity. And love.

Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies. Aristotle

Inspiration.

I am a firm believer that the life holds so many opportunities for all of us and that it is a deep ocean waiting for us to be explored. Life is about experience, making mistakes, right choices and about learning.
But most important, life is about YOU. You are the one that holds the strings of your destiny. Do not let failures and negativities define who you are. Every second spent in sadness, decreases your happiness in life for the same amount of time you could have been laughing and enjoying your life instead of crying over spilt milk.
Different situations will teach you different lessons. Make yourself sure that after every experience you will come out as a brighter and wiser person. Here are 20 inspirational quotes which helped me define what I want to be like.
Read them, understand them and take the best out of them.
Lots of love,
Lolita

Price Tag.

A lot of girls is convinced that beauty is what is served to them. You know that feeling when you buy a magazine to read something interesting, and you see the cover page with a beautiful girl ( read: photoshoped skinny puppet), and think to yourself: "If only I looked like this!"
It happened to all of us, at least once.
But I am not going to talk about these idealized puppets whose job is only to make you feel bad about yourself, they do not deserve it! I am going to talk about something much more important. Real Beauty.

First of all try to define beauty. I guess there is a bunch of definitions out there which can help you. Which one will you choose? And more important, will you let it get to you?
Nowadays, people are just blinded with the things that are on the outside, the visual things. I guess it is easier for them to comprehend people as objects and not complicated individuals with all of their inner emotions and processes.
Some people can maybe define beauty, but no one should be able to influence what beauty means to you. To oneself. Beauty, for me, is intellingence, sense of humor, kindness. Not perfect make up, nor designer clothes. All of these fade away, eventually.

You know, you might be a cover girl, and everyone might look at you for a moment, but then they will seek for another one, because your cover story cannot please people permanently. Your beauty is too empty to have a meaning. You should rather be a good book, a classic, a never fully explored beauty which people will read over and over again in order to find and learn something new.
Don't get simple fashion take away your real, inner beauty.

Think of it, why do we put price tags on beauty? Maybe because it is only a business for making non self-confident women spend their money on stuff no one needs to be a part of the idealized shape and image of  how a woman should look like or is it because real beauty is something so rare, that no one could actually afford it?

In the end it is all about how you perceive certain standards and trends. You should never pretend to be something you are not in order to fit in. Never let people dictate what beauty means to you. Beauty is not in eye of beholder, it is in his mind and heart.

This is a post dedicated to a very special woman that happens to be my friend. You should be proud of yourself.  I am. You are beautiful to me for everything you are.